Until recently, sexual education resources were created and disseminated with the assumption that everyone’s gender is the same as the sex that they were assigned at birth.
Additionally, they focused solely on heterosexual interactions and did not address same-sex or queer relationships.
Finally, in traditional sex education courses and materials, body parts have been typically referred to as male parts and female parts, which excludes individuals that identify as non-binary.
For all of these reasons, it’s necessary to create a LGBTQIA safe sex guide and provide tips about discussing and practicing safer sex.
Keep reading to learn how to talk about consent and STI testing with your partner as well as steps you can take to make oral and penetrative sex safer.
How to Talk About Consent With Your Partner?
Consent is the act of agreeing to engage in touching or any other sexual activity and is an important part of protecting yourself and your partner. That being said, it’s essential to obtain consent with every sexual act and partner and to remember that the absence of no, doesn’t mean yes.
Here are four ways to approach the topic of consent.
1. Mention a recent article or news feature that was about consent
Referring to consent in the media can help you segue into a more personal conversation about the issue as it relates to you and your partner.
2. Express respect
Let your partner know that you want to respect each other with every sexual activity and that’s why it’s important to talk about consent.
3. Ask to talk about consent
Tell your partner that you like to discuss consent before engaging in a sexual encounter and ask if they’d be willing to talk about it.
4. Admit that it may be awkward
Directly addressing that consent may be an uncomfortable, yet necessary, subject to bring up can help put you and your partner at ease to have an open and honest conversation.
How to talk to your partner about sexually transmitted infections?
Talking about sexually transmitted infections (STIs) is another crucial component of practicing safe sex. Here are 4 ways that you can open the lines of communication about STIs.
1. Talk about testing
Ask your partner when they last got tested and reveal how often you get tested.
2. Offer to get tested together
Suggest going to get tested at the same time as a shared experience that benefits you both.
3. Extend an invitation
Another way to approach STI testing is letting your partner know that you were planning on getting tested and would they like to join you.
4. Tell them about something new
Express interest in new, at-home testing for STI’s and propose that maybe you and your partner could give it a try.
How to make penetrative sex safer?
Penetrative sex is the act of inserting a body part or toy into another person’s vagina, anus, or front hole. Here are 4 steps to practicing safer oral and penetrative sex.
1. Beware of any genital abnormalities
Don’t engage in sexual activity If you note any cuts, sores, bumps, or high-risk fluids like blood on your partner’s genitals or mouth. These could be signs of a STI and warrant further discussion and testing.
2. Use a barrier method such as a condom
When worn correctly, a latex condom can significantly reduce your risk of STIs. That being said, a new condom should be used with each sexual activity and partner.
3. Wear only 1 condom at a time
Wearing more than 1 condom at a time can increase friction during sex and cause 1 or both condoms to break.
4. Apply lube
Lube also helps reduce friction and the likelihood of the condom becoming damaged. Additionally, when applied to the front hole, vagina, or anus, lube decreases discomfort or pain and enhances pleasure.
How to make oral sex safer?
Similar to penetrative sex, you can limit your risk of STIs by using a latex barrier and applying lube to both sides of the barrier.
How to use a condom?
An outside condom is a protective barrier than can be used with oral and penetrative sex and is placed on a penis or toy.
Here are 6 steps for the correct use of a condom.
1. Check the date
Always make sure that you are using a new condom and that it’s not expired.
2. Open with care
When opening the condom, gently tear the wrapper without disrupting the condom inside.
3. Make sure the condom is intact
Inspect the condom to make sure that there aren’t any holes, rips, bumps, or other irregularities.
4. Apply it properly
To start, place the rim of the condom over the penis, while holding the tip. This allows space for semen to be collected.
Next, roll the condom down until it reaches the base of the penis and ensure the entire genital area is covered by the condom.
5. Use lube
Place lube on the outside of the condom to reduce friction and limit the chance of breakage.
6. Carefully remove the condom
After sex, secure the rim of the condom with your hand when removing the penis from the vagina, anus, or front hole to prevent fluids from leaking. Then tie a knot in the condom and dispose of it in the trash.
For additional information about safe sex practices for LGBTQIA, please call Capital Medical Associates today to schedule a consultation.